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So I think I shared last month at some point with you all that my son was coming home at the end of May.

For those of you who do not know, he has been incarcerated for 3 1/2 years. Simply, he made lots of bad choices… all for the purpose of getting money to buy drugs. (He was born addicted to crack.) So that has always been an issue.

Anyway, when it was time for him to come home, they postponed it one day, then two days, etc. Very very very long story short, they have not let him out. After lots of conversations with his lawyer, the state department of corrections, and the facility that he was in, we found out that his expiration date has been changed from the end of May, to October.

He is not really the same person now, as he was when he went in. Simply put, he has grown up. He is accountable for his choices now. In his head… not just due to his incarceration. He has had his head in such a good place for the last three years. His dad passed away last year without any notice. He was able to speak to him on the phone when his dad took a quick turn for the worst. But, they wouldn’t allow him a few hours to attend the service. And he took it all. He accepted it. He kept his head on straight.

When he found out that he wasn’t coming home, he had a bit of a setback. He became a little frantic. We stayed on the phone quite often and we would brainstorm about people we could speak to and things that we could do to see if we could get some answers. After a couple of days of a bit of panic from him, he set himself back to a good place in his head.

The latest thing that we know, and probably the final information we will get, is that it is MAYBE possible that it might be as soon as August.

My head tells me that it’s maybe just a couple more months, but my heart is really broken. He has served his time. He has gotten only one "write-up", having a nightlite on to finish a book 10 minutes after lights out. No trouble. No fights. He has been a trustee for the last 16 months.

Evidently the Department of Corrections is "God", so we have to accept what they say.

This is really hard.

I'm very sorry. I can't imagine how disappointing tis is.

So sorry, WR. I know you were excited to be able to see him. Fingers crossed that he's out earlier rather than later, but I'd plan on later so I could be surprised if it's does end up earlier.